![]() ![]() The Circle of Concern and the Circle of Influence „Act or be acted upon“ is one headline that illustrates the point here. It is what makes us human, and not stimulus-response animals. The space inside of us between stimulus and response is the space of our freedom to choose, to chose our response. To cultivate this initiative is achieved by taking full responsibility for your own life, by becoming response-able – able to choose your response to the world from the inside, before the world is showing you, that you have to act. The worst case of being reactive is only acting on outer stimulus without any inner reflection, drive or initiative. Both are active, but the first is coming from an inner impulse inside yourself, powered by own desires, while the latter is reacting to outer circumstances. „There is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living“ – David Starr Jordanīeing pro-active is the opposite of being re-active. Independence is what can be reached here, coming from dependence. It’s that simple and that’s what it takes to make dreams come true. The first three habits of private victory are basically about (1) taking full responsibility for yourself, then (2) deciding what you want, and then (3) live by it and do it. This makes so much sense and is the best way to succeed on the long run – only if you truly mastered yourself you can be effective with – and even lead others. You look inside yourself first, you develop yourself and clear the limiting factors in your own life, before you become effective in your public life with others. This is also called the Inside-Out approach to life. The important note is that private victory always precedes the public victory. The 7 habits are divided into the Private Victory, which means mastering self, and the Puplic Victory, mastering relationships with others. ![]() I wrote a whole posting about The matter of perspective here. And becoming aware of this phenomenon gives you the power to react accordingly. Awareness is always the first step to change. I encounter this twist around different perspectives so often, that this is totally worth pointing out. To be able to hear the perspective of the other person then opens the possibility to not only see it, but to be positively influenced by it, by seeing a larger picture and finding a better solution for all involved. And that is true with a lot of situations where different viewpoints collide. Nobody is wrong, as you can see in this example with the picture. To be aware that what you have in mind is not reality but your view on reality, and that someone with a different history can have a totally different view on reality, is the message that is brought to light here. While you see an elderly woman with a huge nose and white hair looking down, I see a young woman from left behind, who has a veil on the back of her hair. This is a great image that reveals the importance of perspective. What do you see in this image to the left? I want to look at these habits and explain them from my understanding here, so let’s see how they can be of value for us now. The idea is to describe principles of human growth, you can say natural laws for a human being, which understood and applied will lead to effectiveness. These 7 habits are really a guide along which you can develop your potential … to fulfill your dreams and to become the best you can be. I can remember how positively influenced I was when I first read them in his best-selling book. These are a great fundament for Personal Development. “I don’t have time to sharpen the saw,” the man says emphatically. ‘Well, why don’t you take a break for a few minutes and sharpen that saw?” you inquire. “Over five hours,” he returns, “and I’m beat! This is hard work.” “Can’t you see?” comes the impatient reply. Suppose you were to come upon someone in the woods working feverishly to saw down a tree. ![]()
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